Revised Forgiveness Inventory Scales
COOP & BAUCOM‚ 1994
1) I want to ask my partner for all the details about the event.
2) I find myself withdrawing from interaction with my partner.
3) I am examining my views about what I should realistically expect from my partner.
4) I want to find out why my partner did this.
5) I spend my time convincing myself that I am still a good person in spite of what happened.
7) I feel I am ready to put what happened behind me.
8) Our relationship feels out of balance as a result of what happened.
10) I feel overwhelmed by confusing emotions about what happened.
11) I find myself collecting information about my partner’s behavior.
12) I know how I feel about continuing our relationship.
13) I feel my emotions about the event are under my control.
15) I find myself trying to be a better partner.
16) I can see both the positive and negative aspects of our relationship.
17) I am able to look at both good and bad qualities of my partner.
18) My emotions about what happened change from day to day.
19) I am able to let go of my anger about what happened.
20) I feel like I want to punish my partner for what he/she did.
21) I keep trying to “even the score” between my partner and me.
22) I am too numb to feel any emotion about what happened.
23) My emotions about what happened are becoming clearer.
24) I want to make my partner “pay” for what he/she did.
cognitive‚ behavioral‚ and emotional
This instrument can be found on page 189 of “Forgiveness and Marriage: Preliminary Support for a Measure Based on A Model of Recovery From A Marital Betrayal”. Available online at: http://www.markbeaird.org/wmlib/pdf/book_resources_rbt/forgiveness_and_marriage.pdf
Cognitive items: 3‚ 4‚ 5‚ 8‚ 9‚ 14‚ 16‚ and 17
Behavioral items: 7‚ 10‚ 13‚ 18‚ 19‚ 22 and 23
Emotional items: 2‚ 11‚ 12‚ 15‚ 20‚ 21‚ and 24
1(almost never) to 5 (almost always)
Coop‚ K. L.‚ & Baucom‚ D. H. (1994). [The Forgiveness Inventory]. Unpublished measure. University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.