Parent/Child Social Competencies—Conflict Behavior Questionnaire

Parent/Child Social Competencies—Conflict Behavior Questionnaire
Eberly‚ Montemayor & Flannery‚ 1993
1. My child is easy to get along with.
2. My child is well behaved in our discussions.
3. My child is receptive to criticism.
4. For the most part‚ my child likes to talk to me.
5. We almost never seem to agree.
6. My child usually listens to what I tell him or her.
7. At least three times a week‚ we get angry at each other.
8. My child says that I have no consideration of his or her feelings.
9. My child and I compromise during arguments.
10. My child often doesn’t do what I ask.
11. The talks we have are frustrating.
12. My child often seems angry at me.
13. My child acts impatient when I talk.
14. In general‚ I don’t think we get along very well.
15. My child almost never understands my side of an argument.
16. My child and I have big arguments about little things.
17. My child is defensive when I talk to him or her.
18. My child thinks my opinions don’t count.
19. We argue a lot about rules.
20. My child tells me he or she thinks I am unfair.
  • positive and negative behaviors
  • Emotion Regulation
  • Social Competencies
This instrument can be found on pages 248-249 of Measuring Violence-Related Attitudes‚ Behaviors‚ and Influences Among Youths: A Compendium of Assessment Tools‚ available online at:
This 20-item measure contains both “positive” and “negative” statements regarding a child’s social competence/conflictual behaviors. Items are rated by se‎lecting either a 1 = true or 2 = false. To obtain anoverall measure of social competence‚ “false” items are recoded to a value of 1‚ while “true” responses arerecoded to a value of 0 (items 1‚ 2‚ 3‚ 4‚ 6 and 9). Then all 20 items are summed to obtain an overall scoreand measure of conflictual behaviors (range = 0-14). Anon-zero score indicates some conflictual behaviors;a high score indicates a great amount of conflict.

Eberly MB‚ Montemayor R‚ Flannery DJ. Variation in adolescent helpfulness toward parents in a familycontext. Journal of Early Adolescence 1993;13(3):228-244.