Experiences in Close Relationships Scale

Experiences in Close Relationships Scale
Brennan‚ Clark & Shaver (1998)
  1. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.
  2. I worry about being abandoned.
  3. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.  (R)
  4. I worry a lot about my relationships.
  5. Just when my partner starts to get close to me I find myself pulling away.
  6. I worry that romantic partners wont care about me as much as I care about them.
  7. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.
  8. I worry a fair amount about losing my partner.
  9. I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.
  10. I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him/her.
  11. I want to get close to my partner‚ but I keep pulling back.
  12. I often want to merge completely with romantic partners‚ and this sometimes scares them away.
  13. I am nervous when partners get too close to me.
  14. I worry about being alone.
  15. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.  (R)
  16. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.
  17. I try to avoid getting too close to my partner.
  18. I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.
  19. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner. (R)
  20. Sometimes I feel that I force my partners to show more feeling‚ more commitment.
  21. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.
  22. I do not often worry about being abandoned.  (R)
  23. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.
  24. If I can’t get my partner to show interest in me‚ I get upset or angry.
  25. I tell my partner just about everything.   (R)
  26. I find that my partner(s) don’t want to get as close as I would like.
  27. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.  (R)
  28. When I’m not involved in a relationship‚ I feel somewhat anxious and insecure.
  29. I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.  (R)
  30. I get frustrated when my partner is not around as much as I would like.
  31. I don’t mind asking romantic partners for comfort‚ advice‚ or help. (R)
  32. I get frustrated if romantic partners are not available when I need them.
  33. It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.  (R)
  34. When romantic partners disapprove of me‚ I feel really bad about myself.
  35. I turn to my partner for many things‚ including comfort and reassurance.  (R)
  36. I resent it when my partner spends time away from me.
This instrument can be found online at: http://personality-testing.info/tests/ECR.php
1=Strongly Disagree‚ 2=Disagree‚ 3=Slightly Disagree‚ 4=Neutral‚ 5=Slightly Agree‚ 6=Agree‚ 7=Strongly Agree

Brennan‚ K.; Clark‚ C.; Shaver‚ P. (1998). Self-report measures of adult romantic attachment. In J. Simpson and W. Rholes‚ Attachment Theory and Close Relationships. New York: Guilford Press.