Intimate Bond Measure (IBM)
Beier & Sternberg‚ 1977
1. Is very considerate of me
2. Wants me to take his/her side in an argument
3. Wants to know exactly what I’m doing and where I am
4. Is a good companion
5. Is affectionate to me
6. Is clearly hurt if I don’t accept his/her views
7. Tends to try and change me
8. Confides closely in me
9. Tends to criticise me over small issues
10.Understands my problems and worries
11.Tends to order me about
12.Insists that I do exactly as I’m told
13.Is physically gentle and considerate
14.Makes me feel needed
15.Wants me to change in small ways
16.Is very loving to me
17.Seeks to dominate me
18.Is fun to be with
19.Wants to change me in big ways
20.Tends to control everything I do
21.Shows his/her appreciation of everything I do
22.Is critical of me in private
23.Is gentle and kind to me
24.Speaks to me in a warm and friendly voice
2 subscales: 12 items for the care dimension‚ and 12 for the control dimension.
3- Very True‚ 2-Moderately True‚ 1-Somewhat True‚ 0-Not True At all
Care (items 1‚ 4‚ 5‚ 8‚ 10‚ 13‚ 14‚ 16‚ 18‚ 21‚ 23 and 24); Control (items 2‚ 3‚ 6‚ 7‚ 9‚ 11‚ 12‚ 15‚ 17‚ 19‚ 20‚ and 22)
This instrument can be found at: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/20759070 & https://www.researchgate.net/publication/19793359 & http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/docs/IntimateBondMeasure_000.pdf
Wilhelm‚ K.‚ Parker‚ G. (1988) The development of a measure of intimate bonds. Psychological Medicine 18:225-234
Wilhelm‚ K.‚ Parker‚ G. (1990). Reliability of the Parental Bonding Instrument and Intimate Bond Measure Scales. New Zealand Journal of Psychiatry‚ 24(2):199-202