Gender Role and Relationship Norm

Violence in Sexual Relationships—Women
1. If my partner came to my home and I was not there‚ I would be in trouble
2. I have sometimes had sex with my partner when I did not want to
3. If he felt that I was with someone else‚ my partner would beat me
4. My partner sometimes ends up forcing me to do something I don’t want to do
5. My partner would beat me if I went somewhere without telling him
6. My partner sometimes gets angry in such a way that he hits me
Violence in Sexual Relationships—Men
1. If I went to my partner’s home and she was not there‚ she would be in trouble
2. My partner has sometimes had sex with me when she did not want to
3. If I felt that my partner was with someone else‚ I would beat her
4. I sometimes end up forcing my partner to do something she doesn’t want to do
5. I would beat my partner if she went somewhere without telling me
6. I sometimes get angry in such a way that I hit my partner
1. We come to agreements together about what we want to do
2. Both partners have a right to a say making decisions in a relationship
3. It is a good thing that women now have more rights than ever before
4. No one partner should have more power than the other in a relationship
Egalitarian Sex Roles (Sexual Scripts)
1. I wish we both initiated sex equally
2. A girlfriend should tell her boyfriend what she likes and doesn’t like
3. We are both free to say if we don’t want sex
4. It is very important that a woman be as happy as a man in a relationship
Male Dominant Sex Roles
1. Men cannot live with just one girlfriend
2. Only a bad girl shows that she likes sex a lot
3. If a girl initiates sex it is because she has other boyfriends
4. A woman who wants to have sex is failing to control herself
5. Boys usually leave a girl if she falls pregnant
6. It is important for a girl to “prove her virginity” by ha‎ving sex with her boyfriend
7. If a boy tells a girl today that he loves her‚ she doesn’t wait very long to tell him that she loves him too
8. If a woman refuses sex she usually doesn’t mean it
9. It’s a woman’s job to bring up condom use before sex
Meaning in Relationships—Mutuality
1. It is most important for us to take time to talk about our problems and discuss our relationship
2. I’m planning good things with my partner
3. I am very much in love with my partner
4. We are taking care of each other well
5. In our relationship there is respect and enjoyment
1. If I did not have a partner at all‚ I would not feel like a real person
2. I need someone who is going to love me
3. I cannot live without my partner for even 1 day
4. I don’t think a person can survive without ha‎ving someone to love
5. I would die for my love
6. I put all my hopes in my boyfriend/girlfriend
  • Egalitarian Sex
  • Violence in Sexual Relationships
This instrument can be found on pages 13-15 of Measures for the assessment of dimensions of violence against women: A compendium Compiled by Michael Flood‚ available online at:

Harrison‚ A.‚ O’Sullivan‚ L.‚ Hoffman‚ S.‚ Dolezal‚ C.‚ & Morrell‚ R. (2006). Gender Role and Relationship Norms among Young Adults in South Africa: Measuring the Context of Masculinity and HIV Risk. Journal of Urban Health‚ 83(4)‚ 709-722.