Cambridge Friendship Questionnaire
Please complete the following background information about yourself and then turn
over to fill out the rest of the questionnaire.
Name:………………………………………………………………..Sex:…….………..
Date of birth: ……………..……………. Today’s date: ………….……..………….
Occupation (please give most recent if not currently working):………………………………..
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How old were you when you left school? ………………………………………………
Do you have a degree? YES NO
Who else lives in your home? (e.g. partner‚ mother‚ flatmate‚ husband‚ stepson): …………………………………………………………..……………………
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This questionnaire has 35 questions. Please answer every question.
For each of the following questions‚ tick the box next to the statement which most applies to you.
1 |
a |
I have one or two particular best friends. |
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b |
I have several friends who I would call best friends. |
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c |
I don’t have anybody who I would call a best friend. |
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2 |
a |
The most important thing about a friendship is having somebody to confide in. |
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b |
The most important thing about a friendship is having somebody to have fun with. |
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3 |
a |
If I had to pick‚ I would rather have a friend who enjoys doing the same things as me than a friend who feels the same way about life as I do. |
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b |
If I had to pick‚ I would rather have a friend who feels the same way about life as I do‚ than a friend who enjoys doing the same things as me. |
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4 |
a |
I like to be close to people. |
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b |
I like to keep my distance from people. |
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5 |
a |
When I talk with friends on the phone‚ it is usually to make arrangements rather than to chat. |
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b |
When I talk with friends on the phone‚ it is usually to chat rather than to make arrangements. |
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6 |
a |
I tend to think of an activity I want to do and then find somebody to do it with. |
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b |
I tend to arrange to meet somebody and then think of something to do. |
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7 |
a |
I prefer meeting a friend for a specific activity‚ e.g. going to the cinema‚ playing golf. |
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b |
I prefer meeting a friend for a chat‚ e.g. at a pub‚ at a café. |
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8 |
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If I moved to a new area‚ I would put more effort into staying in touch with old friends than making new friends. |
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b |
If I moved to a new area‚ I would put more effort into making new friends than staying in touch with old friends. |
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9 |
a |
My friends value me more as someone who is a support to them than as someone to have fun with. |
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b |
My friends value me more as someone to have fun with than as someone who is a support to them. |
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10 |
a |
If a friend had a problem‚ I would be better at discussing their feelings about the problem than coming up with practical solutions |
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b |
If a friend had a problem‚ I would be better at coming up with practical solutions than discussing their feelings about the problem. |
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11 |
a |
If a friend was having personal problems‚ I would wait for them to contact me as I wouldn’t want to interfere. |
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b |
If a friend was having personal problems‚ I would contact them to discuss the problem. |
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12 |
a |
When I have a personal problem‚ I feel that it is better to work it out on my own. |
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b |
When I have a personal problem‚ I feel that it is better to share it with a friend. |
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c |
When I have a personal problem‚ I feel that it is better to try and forget about it. |
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13 |
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If I have to say something critical to a friend‚ I think it’s best to broach the subject gently. |
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b |
If I have to say something critical to a friend‚ I think it’s best to just come right out and say it. |
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14 |
If I fell out with a good friend and I thought that I hadn’t done anything wrong‚ I would |
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a |
do whatever it takes to repair the relationship. |
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b |
be willing to make the first move‚ as long as they reciprocated |
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c |
be willing to sort out the problem‚ if they made the first move. |
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d |
not feel able to be their close friend anymore. |
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15 |
My ideal working space would be |
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in an office on my own‚ without any visitors during the day. |
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b |
in an office on my own‚ with an occasional visitor during the day |
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c |
in an office with one or two others. |
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d |
in an open plan office. |
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For the next set of questions‚ please tick the box to indicate your answer. |
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16 |
How easy do you find discussing your feelings with your friends? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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17 |
How easy would you find it to discuss your feelings with a stranger? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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18 |
In terms of personality‚ how similar to your friends do you tend to be? |
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Very similar |
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Quite similar |
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Not very similar |
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Very dissimilar |
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19 |
In terms of interests‚ how similar to your friends do you tend to be? |
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Very similar |
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Quite similar |
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Not very similar |
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Very dissimilar |
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20 |
How important is it to you what your friends think of you? |
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Of no importance |
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Of little importance |
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Fairly important Very important |
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Of upmost importance |
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21 |
How important is it to you what strangers think of you? |
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Of no importance |
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Of little importance |
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Fairly important |
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Very important |
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Of upmost importance |
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22 |
How easy do you find it to admit to your friends when you’re wrong? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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23 |
How easy to do you find it to tell a friend about your weaknesses and failures? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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24 |
How easy do you find it to tell a friend about your achievements and successes? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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25 |
How interested are you in the everyday details (e.g. their relationships‚ family‚ what’s currently going on in their lives) of your close friends’ lives? |
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Completely disinterested |
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Not very interested |
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Quite interested |
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Very interested |
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26 |
How interested are you in the everyday details (e.g. their relationships‚ family‚ what’s currently going on in their lives) of your casual friends’ lives? |
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Completely disinterested |
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Not very interested |
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Quite interested |
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Very interested |
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27 |
When you are in a group‚ e.g. at work‚ school‚ church‚ parent group etc.‚ how important is it for you to know the “gossip” e.g. who dislikes who‚ who’s had a relationship with who‚ secrets. |
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Of no importance |
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Of little importance |
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Fairly important |
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Very important |
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Of great importance |
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28 |
Do you work harder at your career than at maintaining your relationships with friends? |
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Yes |
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No |
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Equal |
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29 |
How often do you make plans to meet with friends? |
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Once or twice a year |
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Once every 2 or 3 months |
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Once a month |
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Once every couple of weeks |
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Once or twice a week |
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3 or 4 times a week |
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More than any of the above |
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30 |
How would you prefer to keep in touch with friends? (Please put: 1 in the box next to your most preferred method 2 in the box next to your second preference 3 in the box next to your third preference) |
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Face to face contact |
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Email/letters |
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Telephone calls |
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31 |
How easy to do you find it to make new friends? |
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Very easy |
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Quite easy |
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Not very easy |
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Quite difficult |
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Very difficult |
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32 |
What would be the minimum social contact you would need to get through a day? |
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No contact – I don’t get lonely |
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Just being near to people‚ even if I am not talking to them |
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A casual chat‚ e.g.‚ with a shop assistant or hairdresser |
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A chat with a friend |
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Two or three chats with friends during the day |
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More than any of the above |
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33 |
What would be the minimum social contact you would need to get through a week? |
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None – I don’t get lonely |
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Being around people‚ even if I wasn’t talking to them |
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Casual chats‚ e.g. with a shop assistant or hairdresser |
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One chat with a friend |
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Two or three chats during the week with friends |
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One chat every day with a friend |
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Two or three chats every day with a friend |
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More than any of the above |
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34 |
When talking with friends‚ what proportion of your time do you spend talking about the following: (Please put: 1 in the box next to the topic that you talk most about‚ 2 in the box next to the topic you talk next most about‚ etc‚ through to 7 in the box next to the topic you talk least about. Use each number only once i.e. there should be no ties.) |
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Politics and current affairs |
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Hobbies and interests (eg. sport‚ TV‚ music‚ cinema‚ fashion‚ holidays‚ gardening‚ DIY etc.) |
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Personal matters (e.g. life choice decisions‚ arguments‚ feelings) |
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Work |
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Family and friends |
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The weather |
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What you’ve been doing since last time you spoke |
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35 |
At social occasions‚ when you meet someone for the first time‚ how likely are you to talk about the following. (Please put: 1 in the box next to the topic that you talk most about‚ 2 in the box next to the topic you talk next most about‚ etc‚ through to 7 in the box next to the topic you talk least about. Use each number only once i.e. there should be no ties.) |
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Politics and current affairs |
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Hobbies and interests (e.g. sport‚ TV‚ music‚ cinema‚ fashion‚ holidays‚ gardening‚ DIY etc.) |
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Personal matters (e.g. life choice decisions‚ arguments‚ feelings) |
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Work |
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Family and friends |
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The weather |
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What you’ve been doing recently |
ãSBC/SJW MRC 2000