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Silencing the Self Scale (STSS)
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I think it is best to put myself first because no one else will look out for me.
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I don’t speak my feelings in an intimate relationship when I know they will cause disagreement
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Caring means putting the other person’s needs in front of my own.
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Considering my needs to be as important as those of the people I love is selfish.
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I find it is harder to be myself when I am in a close relationship than when I am on my own.
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I tend to judge myself by how I think other people see me.
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I feel dissatisfied with myself because I should be able to do all the things people are supposed to be able to do these days.
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When my partner’s needs and feelings conflict with my own‚ I always state mine clearly.
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In a close relationship‚ my responsibility is to make the other person happy.
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Caring means choosing to do what the other person wants‚ even when I want to do something different.
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In order to feel good about myself‚ I need to feel independent and self-sufficient.
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One of the worst things I can do is to be selfish.
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I feel I have to act in a certain way to please my partner.
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Instead of risking confrontations in close relationships‚ I would rather not rock the boat.
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I speak my feelings with my partner‚ even when it leads to problems or disagreements.
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Often I look happy enough on the outside‚ but inwardly I feel angry and rebellious.
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In order for my partner to love me‚ I cannot reveal certain things about myself to him/her.
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When my partner’s needs or opinions conflict with mine‚ rather than asserting my own point of view I usually end up agreeing with him/her.
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When I am in a close relationship I lose my sense of who I am.
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When it looks as though certain of my needs can’t be met in a relationship‚ I usually realize that they weren’t very important anyway.
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My partner loves and appreciates me for who I am.
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Doing things just for myself is selfish.
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When I make decisions‚ other people’s thoughts and opinions influence me more than my own thoughts and opinions.
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I rarely express my anger at those close to me.
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I feel that my partner does not know my real self.
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I think it’s better to keep my feelings to myself when they do conflict with my partner’s.
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I often feel responsible for other people’s feelings.
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I find it hard to know what I think and feel because I spend a lot of time thinking about how other people are feeling.
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In a close relationship I don’t usually care what we do‚ as long as the other person is happy.
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I try to bury my feelings when I think they will cause trouble in my close relationship(s).
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I never seem to measure up to the standards I set for myself.
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Cite this article
mohammad looti (2026). The Silencing the Self Scale. PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES. Retrieved from https://scales.arabpsychology.com/s/the-silencing-the-self-scale/
mohammad looti. "The Silencing the Self Scale." PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES, 21 Apr. 2026, https://scales.arabpsychology.com/s/the-silencing-the-self-scale/.
mohammad looti. "The Silencing the Self Scale." PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES, 2026. https://scales.arabpsychology.com/s/the-silencing-the-self-scale/.
mohammad looti (2026) 'The Silencing the Self Scale', PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES. Available at: https://scales.arabpsychology.com/s/the-silencing-the-self-scale/.
[1] mohammad looti, "The Silencing the Self Scale," PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES, vol. X, no. Y, ص Z-Z, April, 2026.
mohammad looti. The Silencing the Self Scale. PSYCHOLOGICAL SCALES. 2026;vol(issue):pages.