For each statement:
A = Very true of me
B = Quite a bit true of me
C = Moderately true of me
D = A little bit true of me
E = Not at all true of me
1. I tried to change the subject.
2. I compromised with him/her.
3. I calmly discussed the issue.
4. I avoided him/her.
5. I showed concern about his/her feelings and thoughts.
6. I used threats.
7. I avoided the issue.
8. I explored solutions with him/her.
9. I criticized an aspect of his/her personality.
10. I sought a mutually beneficial solution.
11. I shouted at him/her.
12. I tried to postpone the issue as long as possible.
13. I reasoned with him/her in a give and take manner.
14. I tried to make him/her feel guilty.
15. I changed the topic of discussion.
16. I expressed my trust in him/her.
17. I was sympathetic to his/her position.
18. I blamed him/her for causing the conflict.
19. I teased him/her.
20. I was hostile.
21. I ignored the issue.
22. I showed that I lost my temper.
23. I talked about abstract things instead of the conflict issue.
24. I accepted my fair share of responsibility for the conflict.
25. I criticized his/her behavior.
26. I focused on the meaning of the words more than the conflict issue.
27. I tried to understand him/her.
28. I tried to intimidate him/her.
29. I ignored his/her thoughts and feelings.
30. I told him/her how to behave in the future.
31. I denied that there was any problem or conflict.
32. I was sarcastic in my use of humor.
33. I kept my partner guessing what was really on my mind.
34. I avoided the issue by focusing on how we were arguing instead of what we were arguing about.
35. I blamed the conflict on an aspect of his/her personality.
36. I explained why there was no problem at all.
Integrative tactics‚ distributive tactics‚ and avoidance tactics
Tammy Lowery Zacchilli‚ 2007. The Relationship Between Conflict and Communication‚ Sex‚ Relationship Satisfaction‚ and other Relational Variables in Dating Relationships. A Dissertation In EXPERIMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY. Texas Tech University
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