Friel Co-Dependency Assessment Inventory

Friel Co-Dependency Assessment Inventory
Friel‚ 1985‚ Friel & Friel‚ 1987
Mental Health America of Northern Kentucky & Southern Ohio 
1.    I make enough time to do things for myself every week.
2.    I spend lots of time criticizing myself after an interaction with someone.
3.    I would not be embarrassed if people knew certain things about me.
4.    Sometimes I feel like I just waste a lot of time and don’t get anywhere.
5.    I take good enough care of myself.
6.    It is usually best not to tell someone they bother you; it only causes fights and gets everyone upset.
7.    I am happy about the way my family communicated when I was growing up.
8.    Sometimes I don’t know how I really feel.
9.    I am very satisfied with my intimate love life.
10.I’ve been feeling tired lately.
11.When I was growing up‚ my family liked to talk openly about problems.
12.I often look happy when I am sad or angry.
13.I am satisfied with the number and kind of relationships I have in my life.
14.Even if I had the time and money to do it‚ I would feel uncomfortable taking a vacation by myself.
15.I have enough help with everything that I must do every day.
16.I with that I could accomplish a lot more than I do now.
17.My family taught me to express feelings and affection openly when I was growing up.
18.It is hard for me to talk to someone in authority (boss‚ teachers‚ etc.).
19.When I am in a relationship that becomes too confusing and complicated‚ I have no trouble getting out of it.
20.I sometimes feel pretty confused about who I am and where I want to go with my life.
21.I am satisfied with the way I take care of my own needs.
22.I am not satisfied with my career.
23.I usually handle my problems calmly and directly.
24.I hold back my feelings much of the time because I don’t want to hurt other people or have them think less of me.
25.I don’t feel like I’m “in a rut” very often.
26.I am not satisfied with my friendships.
27.When someone hurts my feelings or does something I don’t like‚ I have little difficulty telling them about it.
28.When a close friend or relative asks for my help more than I’d like‚ I usually say “yes” anyway.
29.I love to face new problems and am good at finding solutions for them.
30.I do not feel good about my childhood.
31.I am not concerned about my health a lot.
32.I often feel like no one really knows me.
33.I feel calm and peaceful most of the time.
34.I find it difficult to ask for what I want.
35.I don’t let people take advantage of me.
36.I am dissatisfied with at least one of my close relationships.
37.I make major decisions quite easily.
38.I don’t trust myself in new situations as much as I’d like.
39.I am very good at knowing when to speak up and when to go along with others’ wishes.
40.I wish I had more time away from my work.
41.I am as spontaneous as I’d like to be.
42.Being alone is a problem for me.
43.When someone I love is bothering me‚ I have no problem telling them so.
44.I often have so many things going on at once that I’m really not doing justice to any one of them.
45.I am very comfortable letting others into my life and letting them see the “real me”.
46.I apologize to others too much for what I say or do.
47.I have no problem telling people when I am angry with them.
48.There’s so much to do and not enough time.
49.I have few regrets about what I have done with my life.
50.I tend to think of others more than I do of myself.
51.More often than not‚ my life has gone the way I wanted it to.
52.People admire me because I’m so understanding of others‚ even when they do something that annoys me.
53.I am comfortable with my own sexuality.
54.I sometimes feel embarrassed by the behavior of those close to me.
55.The important people in my life know the “real me” and I am okay with them knowing.
56.I do my share of work and often do a bit more.
57.I do not feel that everything would fall apart without my efforts and attention.
58.I do too much for other people and then later wonder why I did so.
59.I am happy about the way my family coped with problems when I was growing up.
60.I wish that I had more people to do things with.
True / False
If your score is….
Below 20  You have Little Need for Concern
21 – 30  Moderate Need for Concern.
31 – 45  Moderate to Severe Need for Concern.
46 or over S evere Need for Concern & Intervention
This instrument can be found at: Mental Health America of Northern Kentucky & Southern Ohio

Friel‚ j. (1985). Co-Dependency Assessment Inventory: A preliminary research tool. Focus on the Family and Chemical Dependency‚ pp. 20-21.

Friel‚j.‚ & Friel‚ L. (1987). Uncovering our frozen feelings: The iceberg model of codependency. Focus on the Family and Chemical Dependency‚ 46‚ 10-12.

Friel‚ J‚ & Friel‚ L. (1988). Adult children The secrets of dysfunctional families. Deerfield Beach‚ FL: Health Communications.