Personal and Relationships Profile – PRP

My relationship with my partner is the most important relationship I have

My parents did not care if I did things like shoplifting

I would give up almost anything for my partner

My partner doesn’t have enough sense to make important decisions

I often feel empty

I often break things that belong to others on purpose

People usually like my partner

I’d do almost anything to keep people from leaving me

I can calm myself down when I am upset with my partner

Before I let myself get really mad at my partner, I think about what will happen if I lose my temper

My parents did not keep me clean

A woman who has been raped probably asked for it

I have family members who would help me out if I had a problem

Men are more dishonest than women

My partner often nags me

I rarely have anything to do with religious activities

My partner is basically a good person

I am always courteous, even to people who are disagreeable

Sometimes I can’t remember what happened the night before because of drinking

I can't bring myself to say nice things to my partner even when I'm thinking them

Since age 15, I have stolen or tried to steal something worth more than $50.00

When I was a kid, I saw my mother or father kick, punch, or beat up their partner

I often feel resentful of women

I can feel my blood rising when I start to get mad at my partner

I lie to make myself look better

I enjoy my day-to-day life

I try not to think about terrible things that happened to me

I usually wake up feeling pretty good

Since age 15, I have stolen money (from anyone, including family)

When I was a kid, people (adults or kids) who were not part of my family pushed, shoved, or slapped me, or threw things at me

I make excuses when I've said something to my partner I shouldn't have

Men treat women badly

My life is generally going well

A boy who is hit by another boy should hit back

My partner does things just to annoy me

There have been occasions when I took advantage of someone

When I was a kid, people (adults or kids) who were not part of my family told me to hit back if someone hit me or insulted me

My relationships have big ups and downs

Before I was 18, an adult in my family had sex with me (vaginal, anal, or oral)

Men irritate me a lot

Sometimes I have doubts that my relationship with my partner will last

My partner and I disagree about what types of affection are okay in public

Men respect women

My parents did not comfort me when I was upset

Women treat men badly

I worry that I have a drug problem

I don’t think about how what I do will affect other people

I give up easily on difficult projects

Marriage is forever

I don’t like my work or classes

Once sex gets past a certain point, a man can’t stop himself until he is satisfied

No matter who I am talking to I am always a good listener

I don’t tell my partner when I disagree about important things

I have a right to know everything my partner does

I can usually tell when I am about to lose my temper at my partner

When I was a teenager, I was hit a lot by my mother or father

Before I was 18, another kid in my family made me look at or touch their private parts (sex organs), or looked at or touched mine

Before age 15, I stole or tried to steal something worth more than $50.00

It’s all right to break the law as long as you don’t get hurt

My father or mother told me to hit back if someone hit me or insulted me

I avoid doing anything that reminds me of terrible things that happened to me

I have never been irked when people expressed ideas very different from my own

When I was a kid, I often saw kids who were not in my family get into fights and hit each other

I am generally in a good mood

I can think of a situation when I would approve of a wife slapping a husband’s face

I am sometimes irritated by people who ask favors of me

I spend time with friends who have been in trouble with the law

I have goals in life that I try to reach

I would feel betrayed if my partner was too busy to spend time with me

I often do things that are against the law

I think good things will happen to me in the future

If a wife refuses to have sex, there are times when it may be okay to make her do it

When I am drinking I usually have five or more drinks at a time

I would hate it if my partner confided in someone besides me

I sometimes drink five or more drinks at a time, but only on weekends

I have friends who have committed crimes

When a boy is growing up, it’s important for him to have a few fist fights

There is nothing I can do to control my feelings when my partner hassles me

When I was a kid, I saw a member of my family who was not my mother or father, push, shove, slap, or throw something at someone

Before I was 18, an adult in my family made me look at or touch their private parts (sex organs), or looked at or touched mine

I have thought seriously about ending my relationship with my partner

I am constantly looking for signs of danger

I go back and forth between thinking my partner is perfect or terrible

I can think of a situation when I would approve of a husband slapping a wife’s face

To get ahead, I have done some things which are not right

I am easily frustrated by women

My partner likes to make me mad

It is sometimes hard for me to go on with my work if I am not encouraged

I often do things that other people think are dangerous

Caring for my partner means more to me than caring for myself

When I was less than 12 years old, I was spanked or hit a lot by my mother or father

I recognize when I am beginning to get angry at my partner

My partner needs to remember that I am in charge

My partner and I disagree about each other’s irritating habits

When my partner says something mean, I usually say something mean back

It is usually my partner's fault when I get mad

People often interrupt me when I’m trying to get things done

I am easily startled

My partner and I disagree about whether it is okay to tell each other we disagree

Before I was 18, an adult who was not part of my family had sex with me (vaginal, anal, or oral)

I sometimes drink enough to feel really high or drunk

Since age 15, I hit or threatened to hit someone who is not a member of my family

I generally have the final say when my partner and I disagree

My partner treats me well

Women irritate me a lot

I don’t have enough money for my daily needs

My partner and I disagree about his or her friends and family

My parents did not help me to do my best in school

I’m always willing to admit it when I make a mistake

I can set up a time out break during an argument with my partner

I sometimes feel resentful when I don’t get my way

Men are rude

My relationship with my partner is worth the effort I put into it

I attend a church, synagogue, or mosque once a month or more

A man should not walk away from a physical fight with another man

I have had thoughts of cutting or burning myself

In the past, I used coke, crack, or harder drugs (like uppers, heroin, or opiates) more than once or twice

My sex life with my partner is good

I get hassled because of who I am

My parents did not care if I got into trouble in school

I often get hurt by things that I do

I have overdosed on drugs or had a severe health problem because of taking drugs to get high

Before I was 18, another kid who was not part of my family made me look at or touch their private parts (sex organs), or looked at or touched mine

When I feel myself getting angry at my partner, I try to tell myself to calm down

It’s sometimes necessary for parents to slap a teen who talks back or is getting into trouble

I have a right to be involved with anything my partner does

I am so sad, sometimes I wonder why I bother to go on living

Before I was 18, an adult who was not part of my family made me look at or touch their private parts (sex organs), or looked at or touched mine

There have been times when I was quite jealous of the good fortune of others

Since age 15, I have physically attacked someone with the idea of seriously hurting them

Terrible things happened to me that made me feel helpless and horrified

I would hate it if my partner paid a lot of attention to someone besides me

When I don't understand what my partner means I ask for more explanation

I wish my partner and I got along better than we do

When my partner and I have problems, I blame him or her

My housing is not satisfactory (e.g., too much noise, heating problems, run-down, problems with neighbors)

I would be upset if my partner hugged someone a little too long

My partner and I disagree about when to have sex

I share my thoughts with a family member

I sometimes try to get even rather than forgive and forget

I feel sad quite often

I'd feel jealous if my partner were helpful to someone of the opposite sex

Women are rude

When my partner is nice to me I wonder what my partner wants

I only treat people badly if they deserve it

Before I was 18, another kid in my family did things to me that I now think was sexual abuse

When my partner wants to talk about our problems, I try to avoid talking about them

I have trouble following the rules at work or in school

I often lie to get what I want

Finding time for meals is hard for me

There have been times when I have felt like rebelling against people in authority even though I knew they were right

I insist on knowing where my partner is at all times

My partner and I disagree about my friends and family

When I'm mad at my partner, I say what I think without thinking about the consequences

My parents gave me enough clothes to keep me warm

My partner and I disagree about how much money to spend when we go places

Before age 15, I hit or threatened to hit my parents

I say mean things to my partner, but then tell him or her "I'm only kidding"

Before I was 18, another kid who was not part of my family did things to me that I now think was sexual abuse

On a few occasions, I have given up doing something because I have thought too little of my ability

It is sometimes necessary to discipline a child with a good, hard spanking

My mood is always changing

My parents helped me when I had trouble understanding something

My friends pressure me to do things I don’t want to do

I change suddenly from being one kind of person to another

Sometimes I have to remind my partner of who’s boss

There are more bad things than good things in my relationship with my partner

My partner and I disagree about how much time we should spend together

My parents helped me when I had problems

I have considered leaving my partner

Terrible things have happened to me that I remember over and over

Before age 15, I physically attacked someone with the idea of seriously hurting them

I have never deliberately said something that hurt someone’s feelings

I’ve been terrified by things that have happened to me

I’ve told others I will kill myself

I would be upset if someone hugged my partner a little too long

I would hate it if someone else paid a lot of attention to my partner

Before age 15, I stole money (from anyone, including family)

My partner and I have a very good relationship

I have a good social life with my partner

I feel sorry when I hurt someone

I have thought about killing myself

People at work or school don’t get along with me

I have been treated for a drug problem

My partner and I disagree about telling other people about things that happen between us

I would be mad if my partner flirted with someone else

I have bad dreams about terrible things that happened to me