Multidimensional Parenting Perfectionism Questionnaire – MPPQ

I set very high standards for myself as a parent.

Only if I am "perfect" as a parent will society consider me to be a good parent.

My partner sets very high standards of excellence for herself/himself as a parent.

My partner expects me to be a perfect parent.

I expect my partner to always be a top-notch and competent parent.

I must always be successful as a parent.

Most people in society expect me to always be a perfect parent.

My partner is perfectionistic in that she/he expects to be a perfect parent all the time.

My partner demands nothing less than perfection of me as a parent.

My partner should never let me down when it comes to being a parent.

One of my goals is to be a "perfect" parent.

Most people expect me to always be an excellent parent.

It makes my partner uneasy for him/her to be less than a perfect parent.

My partner always wants me to be a perfect parent.

I cannot stand for my partner to be less than a competent parent.

I always feel the need to be a "perfect" parent.

I have to be a perfect parent in order for most people to regard me as okay.

My partner sets very high, perfectionistic goals for herself (himself) as a parent.

My partner pressures me to be a perfect parent.

I expect nothing less than "parental perfectionism" from my partner.

I always pressure myself to be the best parent in the world.

In order for people to accept me, I have to be the greatest parent in the world.

My partner is always trying to be totally perfect as a parent.

My partner has very high perfectionistic goals for me as a parent.

I will appreciate my partner, but only if she/he is a perfect parent.

I have very high perfectionistic goals for myself as a parent.

Most people expect me to be perfectionistic when it comes to being a parent.

My partner always feels that she/he has to be the best possible parent.

In order for my partner to appreciate me, I have to be a perfect parent.

I expect my partner to try to be perfectionistic when it comes to parenting behavior.

My spouse/partner sets very high parenting standards for me.

Being organized as a parent is very important to me.

My spouse/partner has criticized me for being less than a perfect parent.

If I do not set the highest standards for myself, I am likely to end up a second rate parent.

My spouse/partner never tries to understand my mistakes/shortcomings as a parent.

It is important to me that I am thoroughly competent in everything I do as a parent.

I am rather neat (i.e., not messy) as a parent.

I try to take an organized approach to being a parent.

If I fail to rear my children well, I would be a total failure as a person.

I should be upset if I make a mistake in rearing my children.

My spouse/partner wants me to be the best possible parent in the entire world.

I set higher goals for myself as a parent than do most people.

If someone were a better parent than I, then I would feel like a complete failure as a parent.

If I fail in even a small way to be a totally good parent, it is as bad as being completely inadequate.

Only when I am an "outstanding" parent is it good enough for my spouse/partner.

I am very good at focusing my efforts and time at being a good parent.

Even when I am very careful as a parent, I often feel that I failed to do something quite right.

I hate being less than the best possible parent.

I have extremely high goals for myself as a parent.

My spouse/partner expects "parenting excellence" from me.

My spouse/partner would probably think less of me if I made a mistake in parenting.

I never feel like I can meet my spouse/partner's expectations for me as a parent.

If I am not as good a parent as other people, it means I am an inferior parent.

Other people seem to accept less from themselves as a parent than I do for myself.

If I do not constantly attend to our children, my spouse/partner will not respect me as a parent.

My spouse/partner has always had higher expectations for me as a parent than I have.

I try to be an organized and neat parent.

I usually have doubts about even the simple things I do and say as a parent.

As a parent, orderliness (and neatness) is very important to me.

I expect more of myself as a parent than most people.

I take an organized approach to being a parent.

I tend to have problems as a parent, because I keep doing things the same old way.

It takes me a long time to do something "right" as a parent.

The fewer mistakes I make as a parent, the more my spouse/partner will like me.

I never feel like I can meet my spouse/partner's standards for good parenting behavior.