Fear of Intimacy Scale (FIS)

I would feel uncomfortable telling O about things in the past that I have felt ashamed of.

I would feel uneasy talking with O about something that has hurt me deeply.

I would feel comfortable expressing my true feelings to O.

If O were upset I would sometimes be afraid of showing that I care.

I might be afraid to confide my innermost feelings to O.

I would feel at ease telling O that I care about him/her.

I would have a feeling of complete togetherness with O.

I would be comfortable discussing significant problems with O.

A part of me would be afraid to make a long-term commitment to O.

I would feel comfortable telling my experiences, even sad ones, to O.

I would probably feel nervous showing O strong feelings of affection.

I would find it difficult being open with O about my personal thoughts.

I would feel uneasy with O depending on me for emotional support.

I would not be afraid to share with O what I dislike about myself.

I would be afraid to take the risk of being hurt in order to establish a closer relationship with O.

I would feel comfortable keeping very personal information to myself.

I would not be nervous about being spontaneous with O.

I would feel comfortable telling O things that I do not tell other people.

I would feel comfortable trusting O with my deepest thoughts and feelings.

I would sometimes feel uneasy if O told me about very personal matters.

I would be comfortable revealing to O what I feel are my shortcomings and handicaps.

I would be comfortable with having a close emotional tie between us.

I would be afraid of sharing my private thoughts with O.

I would be afraid that I might not always feel close to O.

I would be comfortable telling O what my needs are.

I would be afraid that O would be more invested in the relationship than I would be.

I would feel comfortable about having open and honest communication with O.

I would sometimes feel uncomfortable listening to O's personal problems.

I would feel at ease to completely be myself around O.

I would feel relaxed being together and talking about our personal goals.

I have shied away from opportunities to be close to someone.

I have held back my feelings in previous relationships.

There are people who think that I am afraid to get close to them.

There are people who think that I am not an easy person to get to know.

I have done things in previous relationships to keep me from developing closeness.