Experiences in Close Relationships Scale – ECR

I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.

I worry about being abandoned.

I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.

I worry a lot about my relationships.

Just when my partner starts to get close to me I find myself pulling away.

I worry that romantic partners won't care about me as much as I care about them.

I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.

I worry a fair amount about losing my partner.

I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.

I often wish that my partner's feelings for me were as strong as my feelings for him/her.

I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.

I often want to merge completely with romantic partners, and this sometimes scares them away.

I am nervous when partners get too close to me.

I worry about being alone.

I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.

My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.

I try to avoid getting too close to my partner.

I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.

I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.

Sometimes I feel that I force my partners to show more feeling, more commitment.

I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.

I do not often worry about being abandoned.

I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.

If I can't get my partner to show interest in me, I get upset or angry.

I tell my partner just about everything.

I find that my partner(s) don't want to get as close as I would like.

I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.

When I'm not involved in a relationship, I feel somewhat anxious and insecure.

I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

I get frustrated when my partner is not around as much as I would like.

I don't mind asking romantic partners for comfort, advice, or help.

I get frustrated if romantic partners are not available when I need them.

It helps to turn to my romantic partner in times of need.

When romantic partners disapprove of me, I feel really bad about myself.

I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.

I resent it when my partner spends time away from me.