COPE Inventory

I try to grow as a person as a result of the experience.

I turn to work or other substitute activities to take my mind off things.

I get upset and let my emotions out.

I try to get advice from someone about what to do.

I concentrate my efforts on doing something about it.

I say to myself "this isn't real."

I put my trust in God.

I laugh about the situation.

I admit to myself that I can't deal with it, and quit trying.

I restrain myself from doing anything too quickly.

I discuss my feelings with someone.

I use alcohol or drugs to make myself feel better.

I get used to the idea that it happened.

I talk to someone to find out more about the situation.

I keep myself from getting distracted by other thoughts or activities.

I daydream about things other than this.

I get upset, and am really aware of it.

I seek God's help.

I make a plan of action.

I make jokes about it.

I accept that this has happened and that it can't be changed.

I hold off doing anything about it until the situation permits.

I try to get emotional support from friends or relatives.

I just give up trying to reach my goal.

I take additional action to try to get rid of the problem.

I try to lose myself for a while by drinking alcohol or taking drugs.

I refuse to believe that it has happened.

I let my feelings out.

I try to see it in a different light, to make it seem more positive.

I talk to someone who could do something concrete about the problem.

I sleep more than usual.

I try to come up with a strategy about what to do.

I focus on dealing with this problem, and if necessary let other things slide a little.

I get sympathy and understanding from someone.

I drink alcohol or take drugs, in order to think about it less.

I kid around about it.

I give up the attempt to get what I want.

I look for something good in what is happening.

I think about how I might best handle the problem.

I pretend that it hasn't really happened.

I make sure not to make matters worse by acting too soon.

I try hard to prevent other things from interfering with my efforts at dealing with this.

I go to movies or watch TV, to think about it less.

I accept the reality of the fact that it happened.

I ask people who have had similar experiences what they did.

I feel a lot of emotional distress and I find myself expressing those feelings a lot.

I take direct action to get around the problem.

I try to find comfort in my religion.

I force myself to wait for the right time to do something.

I make fun of the situation.

I reduce the amount of effort I'm putting into solving the problem.

I talk to someone about how I feel.

I use alcohol or drugs to help me get through it.

I learn to live with it.

I put aside other activities in order to concentrate on this.

I think hard about what steps to take.

I act as though it hasn't even happened.

I do what has to be done, one step at a time.

I learn something from the experience.

I pray more than usual.