Co-Dependency Inventory – CODI

I try to take charge of things when I am with people I care about.

Disapproval by someone I care about is very painful for me.

I often do things without knowing why.

I put the needs of people I care about before my own needs.

I try to have other people do things the way I want them done.

I would be completely lost if I didn't have someone special.

I often feel like a stranger to myself.

I am loyal to others I care about even though they don't deserve my loyalty.

I let other people I care about decide what to do.

I tend to expect too much from others who are important to me.

I often hide my true feelings from people I care about.

I blame myself for things that go wrong in my relationships.

I let other people who are important to me influence my actions.

I feel that I never get all that I need from people I care about.

Sometimes it's hard for me to make up my mind because I don't know how I really feel about anything.

Sometimes I let down my standards and accept less from people who are important to me.

I let other people take charge of things.

I think most people don't realize how easily they can hurt me.

I avoid talking about my problems.

I don't spend as much time with my friends as I would like to.

I try to influence the people who are important to me.

I tend to imagine the worst if someone I love doesn't arrive when expected.

Sometimes I don't know what I want so I do what other people want me to do.

I am influenced by the feelings of people I care about.

I am easily led by people who are important to me.

I have always had a terrible fear that I will lose the love and support of people I care about.

I often pretend things are fine when really they are not.

I often take on the responsibilities of people who are important for me.

I would feel helpless if I was deserted by someone I love.