Regulating Others’ Emotions Scale (ROES)

I ask them to put a brave face on

I tell them to "turn that frown upside down"

I ask them not to look so irritated

I tell them not to frown or cry

I compare their situation to other people who are worse off

I help them to see how lucky they are compared to others

I tell them that things could be a lot worse

I talk about people who have even bigger problems

I make jokes to make them smile

I say comical, light-hearted things

I act silly to entertain them

I do something amusing

I divert their attention to something else

I help them to focus on other things

I start talking about something more pleasant

I suggest something else for them to do

I try to fix things for them

I do what I can to find an answer for them

I take action to change their situation

I try to modify their situation

I discuss different ways of interpreting the situation

I help them to change the way they think about their problems

I discuss other ways that they could interpret events

I help them see events in a new way

I tell them they are very important to me

I let them know how much they mean to me

I tell them how much I value them

I make them feel special or cared about

I let them talk to me about their troubles

I let them talk to me about their troubles

I listen to them talk about their emotions

I help them to let off steam by talking to me