Episode-Specific Conflict Tactics Scale – ESCT

I tried to change the subject.

I compromised with him/her.

I calmly discussed the issue.

I avoided him/her.

I showed concern about his/her feelings and thoughts.

I used threats.

I avoided the issue.

I explored solutions with him/her.

I criticized an aspect of his/her personality.

I sought a mutually beneficial solution.

I shouted at him/her.

I tried to postpone the issue as long as possible.

I reasoned with him/her in a give and take manner.

I tried to make him/her feel guilty.

I changed the topic of discussion.

I expressed my trust in him/her.

I was sympathetic to his/her position.

I blamed him/her for causing the conflict.

I teased him/her.

I was hostile.

I ignored the issue.

I showed that I lost my temper.

I talked about abstract things instead of the conflict issue.

I accepted my fair share of responsibility for the conflict.

I criticized his/her behavior.

I focused on the meaning of the words more than the conflict issue.

I tried to understand him/her.

I tried to intimidate him/her.

I ignored his/her thoughts and feelings.

I told him/her how to behave in the future.

I denied that there was any problem or conflict.

I was sarcastic in my use of humor.

I kept my partner guessing what was really on my mind.

I avoided the issue by focusing on how we were arguing instead of what we were arguing about.

I blamed the conflict on an aspect of his/her personality.

I explained why there was no problem at all.