Kansas Marital Conflict Scale (KMCS)

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often do you both begin to understand each other’s feelings reasonably quickly?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often do you both get your points across to each other without too much trouble?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often do you both begin to appreciate each other’s points of view on the matter fairly soon?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband seem to be supportive of your feelings about your disagreement?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband tell you that you shouldn’t feel the way you do about the issue?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often is your husband willing to really hear what you want to communicate?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband insist on contradicting many of your ideas on the issue before he even understands what your ideas are?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband make you feel that your views, even if different from his, are really important to him?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband seem more interested in justifying his own point of view rather than in understanding yours?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband let you feel upset or angry without putting you down for it?

When you and your husband are beginning to discuss a disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband blame you for any of your feelings of frustration or irritation as if they were mostly your own fault, none of his?

After you and your husband have been discussing a disagreement over an important issue for a while, how often are you able to clearly identify the specific things about which you disagree?

After you and your husband have been discussing a disagreement over an important issue for a while, how often are you able to identify clearly the specific things about which you do agree?

After you and your husband have been discussing a disagreement over an important issue for a while, how often are you both able to express how the other feels about the issue?

After you and your husband have been discussing a disagreement over an important issue for a while, how often are you both able to express the other’s viewpoint nearly as well as you could your own viewpoint?

After you and your husband have been discussing a disagreement over an important issue for a while, how often does your husband’s facial expression and tone of voice convey a sense of negative emotions (discouragement, anger, disgust, condescension, resentment, hostility, frustration, bitterness, self-pity, cynicism) rather than respect toward you?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often are you able to completely resolve it with some sort of compromise that is OK with both of you?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often do you end up with very little resolved after all?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often do you quickly bring the matter to a conclusion that is satisfactory for both of you?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often do you realize that the matter will have to be reargued in the near future?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often do you find that just as soon as you think you have gotten things resolved, your husband comes up with a new idea for resolving the issue?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often does your husband keep on trying to propose things that are not mutually acceptable ways of resolving the matter at hand?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often does it seem that no matter what you suggest, your husband keeps on finding new, supposedly better solutions?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often are you both willing to give and take in order to settle the disagreement?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often are you and your husband able to give up some of what you wanted in order to bring an issue to a close?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often are you and your husband able to keep coming closer together on a mutually acceptable solution until you reach it?

About the time you and your husband feel you are close to a solution to your disagreement over an important issue, how often are you and your husband able to reach a mutually acceptable contract for resolving the disagreement?