Survey of Heterosexual Interactions – SHI

You want to call a girl up for a date. This is the first time you are calling her up as you only know her slightly. When you get ready to make the call, your roommate comes into the room, sits down on his bed and begins reading a magazine.

You are at a dance. You see a very attractive girl whom you do not know. She is standing alone and you would like to dance with her.

You are at a party and you see two girls talking. You do not know these girls but you would like to know one of them better.

You are at a bar where there is also dancing. You see a couple of girls sitting in a booth. One, whom you do not know, is talking with a fellow who is standing by the booth. These two go over to dance leaving the other girl sitting alone. You have seen this girl around, but do not really know her. You would like to go over and talk to her (but you wouldn't like to dance).

On a work break at your job you see a girl who also works there and is about your age. You would like to talk to her, but you do not know her.

You are on a crowded bus; a girl you know only slightly is sitting in front of you. You would like to talk to her but you notice that the fellow sitting next to her is watching you.

You are at a dance. You see an attractive girl whom you do not know, standing in a group of four girls.

You are at a drugstore counter eating lunch. A girl whom you do not know sits down beside you. You would like to talk to her. After her meal comes she asks you to pass the sugar.

A friend of yours is going out with his girlfriend this weekend. He wants you to come along and gives you the name and phone number of a girl he says would be a good date. You are not doing anything this weekend.

You are at the library. You decide to take a break, and as you walk down the hall you see a girl whom you know only casually. She is sitting at a table and appears to be studying. You decide that you would like to ask her to get a coke with you.

You want to call a girl up for a date. You find this girl attractive but you do not know her.

You are taking a class at the university. After one of your classes you see a girl whom you know. You would like to talk to her; however, she is walking with a couple of other girls you do not know.

You have been working on a committee for the past year. There is a banquet at which you are assigned a particular seat. On one side of you there is a girl you do not know; on the other side is a guy you do not know.

You are in the lobby of a large apartment complex waiting for a friend. As you are waiting for him to come down a girl whom you know well walks by with another girl whom you have never seen before. The girl you know says hello and begins to talk to you. Suddenly she remembers that she left something in her room. Just before she leaves you she tells you the other girl's name.

You are at a party in a friend's apartment. You see a girl who has come alone. You don't know her, but you would like to talk to her.

You are walking to your mailbox in the large apartment building where you live. When you get there you notice that two girls are putting their names on the mailbox of the vacant apartment beneath yours.

You are at a record store and see a girl that you once were introduced to. That was several months ago and now you have forgotten her name. You would like to talk to her.

You are at the student union or local cafeteria where friends your age eat lunch. You have gotten your meal and are now looking for a place to sit down. Unfortunately, there are no empty tables. At one table, however, there is a girl sitting alone.

A couple of weeks ago you had a first-date with a girl you now see walking on the street towards you. For some reason you haven't seen each other since then. You would like to talk to her but aren't sure of what she thinks of you.

Generally, in most social situations involving girls whom I do not know, I would: